The pace of life these days is hard to keep up with. We wield the word busy as if it is the seal of approval for the motherhood club. It seems that you are not living up to the current standards of motherhood if you are not extremely busy with the million and 1 things that are expected of moms these days. But being too busy to take care of yourself is just not ok. Moms can’t afford for our selfcare to be an after thought. It’s not always easy to put ourselves first but with the number of people and things that we take care of we have to find ways to prioritize selfcare in order to ensure that momma is healthy and happy. So here are 7 ways busy moms can prioritize their selfcare……
- Wake up early.I know waking up early is no easy task. Most of us are not getting enough sleep as it is. But waking up just 15-30 minutes before the crazy morning routine begins can give you the time you need to focus on yourself. You can journal, read, meditate or just drink a hot cup of coffee without interruption. It really helps to set the tone for the day and gives you a moment to breathe before chaos ensues.
- Plan your day.It is so easy for time to get away from you especially if you are just going with the flow of things. But when you are intentional with your time you are able to find pockets of time throughout the day and utilize them to your advantage. Plan in workouts even if it’s just a quick walk on your lunch break. Plan your meals to save time and ensure you are making healthy food choices throughout your day. Plan downtime to give you space to release stress throughout your day. These may seem small but are important ways to care for yourself.
- Use idle time productively.How much time do you spend driving in your car? Commuting to work, running errands, getting your kids to and from school and all of their activities? No, it’s not really idle time but all that can easily add up to more than 5-10 hours a week. That is a solid chunk of time you should take full advantage of. Put on music you like and listen on your headphones instead of the constant loop of annoying pop songs your kids like. Listen to a great podcast whether it be informative, funny or just enjoyable. Or download some good books on audible that you would never have the time to read at work or home.
- Ask for what you need.You won’t get what you need if you don’t ask for it and unfortunately, no one is going to read your mind. So many of us keep up the façade that we have got everything handled when we feel like we are drowning. But why? Communicate your need, ask for help and accept it. I think so many moms struggle with this for so many reasons. But the truth is we weren’t made to navigate motherhood on our own. Tell your spouse or partner you need more support or ask them to take something off your plate. Ask the people around you for help…friends, family, neighbors, a fellow school mom or even your boss and coworkers. People are willing and able to support you when you are overwhelmed.
- Put your phone down. We often claim to be practicing selfcare when we zone out to candy crush or scrolling our way deep into the rabbit hole of social media. Before you know it, you look up and you have wasted an hour of your time. Then there incessantly checking your email only to get sidetracked into another app and then forgetting why you even got on your phone in the first place. All of these traps have us spending way more time our cell phones than necessary. Just take a moment and check your daily cell phone usage log. You will be shocked at how much time you spend on your cell phone. If you are being honest are you any less stressed after spending an hour on Instagram? You have to ask yourself can this time be better spent?
- Make selfcare a nonnegotiable.As much as you do for your family, you deserve to set aside time for yourself without feeling guilty.
- Say no.You don’t need to do everything for everybody. You don’t need to be on the PTA, volunteer at your kid’s after school activities, run a planning committee at church and sign all your kids up for 3 different activities. No! That doesn’t leave any time or space for yourself and it is just not healthy to stress yourself out with things that you are not required to do. If you love it, great…Do what makes you happy. But say no to the things that just add unnecessary stress and require yourself to say yes to selfcare.
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Elisha Beach is a stay-at-home mom to four kids and stepmom to 4 step-“adults”…Yes, you read that right—eight kids. She is a wife, home cook, taxi driver, herder of children, terrible housekeeper and founder of The Mom Forum.
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