I believe celebrating your achievements is an important part of Selfcare. But as moms, we don’t often do this. When was the last time you took a moment to celebrate your achievements? When did you last acknowledge your accolades. Have you pat yourself on the back recently for something that you have accomplished?
How often do you do that? I am going to guess not very often because that is usually the case with us moms. You just keep it moving to the next thing on the list because there are just too many things to do.
You were probably taught to be humble. Not to brag about all the things you have accomplished as if it were a bad thing. I would even go so far as to say that moms are more encouraged to beat ourselves up for the things we do wrong. We aren’t really encouraged to pat our self on the back when we achieve something. We aren’t suppose to walk around “boasting” about our achievements.
The truth is, as a mom, you are probably quick to beat yourself up for the things that you feel like you are failing at…the things that you feel like you have not done right…the things that you think you are messing up…the things that you are struggling with. Does that sound familiar? How about trying something different?
Relish In The Moment
But how often do you take a moment to say, “I accomplished this.” “I did that, I did this even though I was being faced with this.” “I deserve a pat on the back because I am really good at….” We don’t do that very often.
You have to remind yourself that you accomplish things every day. From the really big things down to the every day little victories. The promotion at work…Getting the kids to school on time…Earning a degree…Getting through homework time with no meltdowns…Launching a new business… Meal planning for the week. Daily successes. Lifetime successes.
List Your Achievements
How often do you list off your achievements or let somebody know that you are a pretty fantastic lady?
I am encouraging you to take a moment, sit down, write down all of the things that you have achieved in your life, all of the things that you are proud of that maybe you don’t take the time to recognize. And then tell somebody. I know it seems odd but just give it a try.
Call your best friend and say, “You know what, I just need to take a moment to brag about myself.”
Tell your husband, “Honey, I need to take a moment and talk about how fabulous I am feeling about myself today.” He may roll his eyes at you, but that is okay.
This is especially helpful when you’re having a hard day, especially when you’re feeling like you haven’t accomplished anything all day or you’ve been working towards a goal for so long and it seems like you are getting zero traction. Take a second to step back and remember that all of your accomplishments got you to where you are today so stop discounting them.
Get Over “Bragging”
Bragging is not a bad thing! I want to encourage you to brag about your accolades, your achievements, your accomplishments. You spend enough time being upset with yourself for all the ways you didn’t get it right. Moms are quick to admonish themselves over every little thing. But, how often do you brag about yourself?
Celebrating your achievements is something that feels good. It reminds you to take a step back and see the bigger picture. It is easy to get stuck on what you didn’t do but taking the time to celebrate your achievement is a form of selfcare that many of us mommas need to practice on a much more regular basis.
Elisha Beach is a stay-at-home mom to four kids and four step-kids…Yes, you read that right—eight kids. She is a wife, home cook, taxi driver, herder of children, terrible housekeeper, selfcare advocate and founder of The Mom Forum. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter.
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