5 Ways Moms Can Practice Self Love
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Let’s be honest. We are constantly providing loving care to our families but so many of us mommas are not very loving to ourselves. We don’t speak nicely to ourselves, we don’t do nice things for ourselves and we rarely put ourselves first. It is easy to be hard on ourselves and beat ourselves up but as cliché as it may sound, we must care for ourselves so that we are able to care for our families. So here are 5 ways moms can practice self-love.
- Speak lovingly to yourself. At the end of the day, how many of you go through the list of things that you messed up or didn’t get right and beat yourself up about it? Would you speak to your children the way that you speak to yourself? It’s easy to see the fault in everything that we do but let’s give ourselves a little grace and speak to ourselves with love. Come up with 3 affirmations (or as we like to call them Mom Mantras) that you repeat to yourself daily or every time that negative self-talk starts running through your brain. Try it…I am a good Mom! I am enough just as I am! I can totally do this!
- Do something just for you. Moms do. Our job is to get things done and we do what we have to do to make it happen. The problem is that the things we should be doing for ourselves are usually on the back burner. Guess what…Sometimes, what mom needs gets to be put first. Make that doctor’s appointment you have been putting off. Find 15 minutes of quiet time in your day to just enjoy silence. Workout or take a walk. Write in your journal or read a good book. Just take the time to add yourself to your never ending to-do list.
- Buy yourself something nice. When was the last time you bought something just for you? How many times have you loaded up your cart at Target and not one thing was for you? Well you deserve something nice. It doesn’t have to be expensive or fancy, just something that is only for you. You could finally buy yourself new underwear and replace the sad excuse of panties you have owned since your last child was born. Buy a nice chocolate bar, a new tube of lipstick or a new book to enjoy. Treat yourself to a manicure or massage or finally buy those shoes or that dress you have been eyeing. You can even order yourself the Hello Mama subscription box so you get a treat every month without even thinking about it. You have permission to treat yourself because you deserve it.
- Ask for help and delegate. Most of the time it is so much easier do things ourselves and not ask the kids or our partners for help. But here’s the thing…When we never ask for help, everyone thinks we can handle it all and us moms end up walking around muttering under our breath about nobody helping. That doesn't serve anyone. Pass some chores off to your kids, ask your husband or partner to pick up more of the slack or even hire someone if it's in your budget. There is one caveat to this...you have to let go of a little bit of control and let people do things the way they are going to do it. Take a breath and remember done is better than perfect.
- Write a love letter to yourself. At first glance, it seems like a really weird thing to do. Who writes a love letter to them self??? But how many times have you found yourself looking into a mirror pointing out all the flaws you see. How many times have you called yourself an idiot because you made a silly mistake? So why not take the time to state all the things that you love about yourself. Actually write it down and keep it so that you can refer to it every time you start that negative self-talk and seem to forget how amazing you really are.
Elisha Beach is a stay-at-home mom to four kids and four step-kids...Yes, you read that right—eight kids. She is a wife, home cook, taxi driver, herder of children, terrible housekeeper and founder of The Mom Forum.
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